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The Benefits of Positive Parenting

Positive parenting is a style of child-rearing that focuses on instilling the values of empathy, respect, and kindness in children. This method also emphasizes building self-esteem and fostering independence.

The central principle behind positive parenting is that parents should do their best to provide an environment where children feel loved while providing them with opportunities for success. These opportunities include natural consequences without using punishment as a discipline technique.

The benefits of positive parenting

The positive parenting approach is one that yields positive results and benefits for both parent and child. Positive parenting focuses on encouraging positive behaviors while remaining calm, rational, positive, even-tempered, and patient when negative behaviors pop up.

This does not mean positive parents are naïve to their children’s misbehavior or wrongdoings; positive parents have high expectations of behavior from their children just like any other parent would. However, positive parents have learned a valuable lesson: one positive thing encourages another positive thing.

Higher self-esteem = more positive behavior

Each time your child accomplishes something, no matter how small, start with praise. This helps with self-esteem at any age.

When you go to parent-teacher conferences, if your child’s teacher is struggling, talk to them about the positive parenting method. When your child responds well to positive reinforcement, that gives their teachers the perfect tools to help your child grow even while they’re away from you.

Positive parenting works for everyone!

Positive parenting has shown wonderful results in kids of all ages, including children with ADHD, ODD, and other diagnoses referred to as “behavioral health problems”. Many times, we can turn a bad day around just by giving a high five and calling our children out for their positive behavior.

Positive parenting helps meet your child where they are at.

Some kiddos are easier to get back on track than others. Sometimes distractions and redirection work, other times it will feel like pulling teeth just to get basic chores completed.

Meeting your child where they’re at with positive parenting will encourage them to be their true selves in a safe way. Let them know that your home is a safe space for them to express themselves and that you are here to listen when they need you.

Instead of trying to mold your child into what your idea of “good” is, meet them where they’re at and show them how amazing you think they are – just because they are themselves.

Catch them being good.

If you catch your child being good, you can help create a snowball effect. One positive thing encourages another.

When you notice your child is struggling, or may be working towards making a bad decision, encourage them ahead of time. “Thanks so much for putting your shoes away!” is a statement that will encourage your child to put their shoes away, even if they may have been veering off track or even getting ready to say they didn’t want to put their shoes away.

When positive parents see positive behaviors they give positive reinforcement for their efforts. For example, if a father sees his daughter playing nicely with her toys he could walk over and say “I like what you are doing right now with your toys, I am proud of the way you are playing today.”

This positive reinforcement reinforces positive conduct to the child because she feels proud of herself in what she is doing and is encouraged to continue acting this positive way! The child will want to continue showing positive behavior because positive parents make it fun, easy, and enjoyable instead of being hard on their children.

Give praise, not bribes.

Sometimes people get confused when we talk about praising or rewarding children for positive behavior. Rewards are not bribes, nor should they be food-related. Eventually, our children will grow up and become adults. The way we prepare them for this is different in every household, but offering positive praise rather than constant physical rewards can help their positive behaviors become more intrinsic.

Negative parenting = negative results

Positive parents also believe that negative parenting does not yield positive results nor do kids learn from when they are being yelled at or punished.

We all want to raise children who are confident in themselves and their abilities. It’s important for parents to provide their children with unconditional support. When children are raised with positive parenting techniques, they will be more likely to grow up happy and healthy. Do your best today by praising your kids when possible!

If you want your child to have higher self-esteem, and also trust you, try the positive parenting method.